When I first thought about going to law school, I searched for blogs about non-traditional students – hoping to find someone like me who actually made it through without losing their mind. I wanted to find someone who would tell me what it was really like to go to law school while working full time and having a family.
I found some good ones, but not many. (Note - there are more now than when I started.)
Since I don’t have children, I didn’t fit into the law-mom role (although I feel like it when I’m taking my little dog into the vet for the 500th time the week before exams.) And I’m not a energetic recent-undergrad who’s only been out in the workforce for two years.
No, instead I’m 36 with a husband of four and a half years (our length of marriage - not his age), a former good-paying career that I left, and a semi-crappy current job to pay the bills.
I have a ¾ scholarship at a non-Tier 1 school. I go to law school in the evenings and on weekends. I have older parents and in-laws whose health needs are not always easy to manage. We have a mortgage and car payments.
I am not on law review (but I am on a law journal) and unfortunately, I’m not in the top 10% of my class (nor am I in the bottom 10% either). I don’t have plans to work in a top law firm with 1,000 other attorneys. I also don’t want a job where I have to work 90 hours a week. I know that will mean less money, but I'm okay with that.
Essentially, I am a mid-life, middle of the road kind of girl.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate my life or anything. I’m happy being me. But I sometimes don’t fit into the molds that exist at law school. And when I looked for blogs about people like me, I didn’t find many. That’s why I started this one. Whether or not it's helpful to anyone else is debatable, but sometimes it's helpful for me.
If there is anyone else out there who is mid-life / middle of the road, like me, here are a few tips on law school that might help you make it through:
- Juggling a full time job, your life, and law school is hard. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either lying or is in serious denial.
- Law school is temporary. It lasts three, maybe four years maximum (if you are going part-time). You will get through it. Remember that when you feel overwhelmed.
- You can’t do it all. If you think you can attend law school classes, study, do internships, law review/journal, work, 30 hours a week with your family, time with your friends, grocery shop, and have a life - you are wrong! Something has to give somewhere. But don’t worry; laundry and dusting are way overrated anyway!
- Time management is the only thing that gets you through. That, and denial.
- Make time for your family – they are the only support you have to keep you going when you feel like quitting. Note: your family and friends do NOT understand how much you have to do, but smile at them anyways when they tell you they do.
- You will be tired a lot – get used to it. Caffeine helps, so does sleep.
- Don’t lose your sense of humor – you’ll need it when you feel like you’re cracking up.
- Make friends in law school – you’ll see them more than your family anyways for the next four years. Plus, they'll "get" all your law school jokes.
- Study – this isn’t undergrad and the reading isn’t easy. Legalese is a new language. The first year classes are NOT the hardest, even though they feel like it at the time.
- Do what works for you. Everyone will give you advice, but you’ll eventually figure out that no everyone knows you better than you.
If nothing else, hang in there!





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